Throughout our lifetime we experience lots of changes in all different areas, some are welcomed with open arms and others we would rather not have occurred. When you are set in a routine it can be hard to adapt and readjust to changes in your life no matter how small. It’s perfectly acceptable to be scared of change, I think sometimes there’s the tendency to hide our fears and let them bubble under the surface and not speak openly about how we feel.
My life has taken one major turn recently with a new baby, things are very different that’s for sure, mind, body and soul. Life as I know it is completely transformed and initially how I was going to handle the changes that motherhood would bring my way was scary. It’s definitely an overwhelming experience and you are thrown right into the deep end from the very start. Not only is there the mental changes to deal with, but also the obvious physical changes too, I have a post coming up about that soon. From my earlier and recent experiences with change, here are some of my tips that have helped me to adapt to new situations and surroundings:
Accept the inevitable
Change is coming your way whether you like it or not, as hard as it may sound, there is no point trying to resist it. Acceptance that changes are going to or about to happen in your life is probably the first step to dealing with them and makes it a bit easier to deal with when they do come knocking at your door.
Give yourself time to readjust
No matter what changes you are comforted with, it’s OK not to wholly be on board with them in the beginning. Some changes can be big and it can take time to get used to them. Giving yourself time to readjust will allow you to become more settled and comfortable in your new set of circumstances.
Let go
Feeling disgruntled, out of sorts and angry with change in the beginning is perfectly acceptable and normal. However, depending on the situation feeling this way for a long time can cause more harm than good. When you feel ready, it may be better to just let go and embrace the change with a more positive outlook.
Chase the opportunity
With it change often brings brand new opportunities. Moving forward, grasping the change with both hands could be exciting and possibly put a positive spin on a bad situation. Also, a time of change could be a chance to take a step back and reassess your life, allowing you to take control and perhaps make your own changes, which you can prepare for in advance.
Leave the past behind you
If there are some bad feelings and negativity surrounding a particular change it’s probably best to leave these in the past or clear the air. Change is how we progress in life and if you are still firmly rooted in the past you may hinder this process. Moving on from a bad situation connected with change will help you deal with it better and allow you to start on a clean playing field.
What changes have suddenly occurred in your life? Are you good at dealing with positive and negative changes? How do you readjust?
What a lovely post. I think you’re right, change can be really hard to accept. Sometimes we over think it when we should try to step back, get an overview and try to accept it. x
I think that gaining some persepctive is such a great tip. Things can look daunting close up, but taking a step back allows you to see the wider picture and things might not be that bad at all.
Letting go is one of the best decisions you can make with change. You seem to be doing very well with everything and I am pleased to see that you are still blogging as the first few months with baby no 1 is such a huge adjustment.
Thanks Bintu, I love the release that blogging brings so would never give it up. 🙂
I’m such a creature of habit that change is a scary thing. Having a baby is like the holy mother of all changes and I can’t even imagine how I’d cope. You seem to be doing marvelously though!
Thanks Anna, we seem to have found our groove now.
I think your point about giving yourself time to adjust is really important. It does take time for your head and body to catch up and adjust.
Sometimes I think that we forget that we need time, which I know can be a luxury in today’s fast-paced society.
Changes are one of the things that scare me most in life. I’d rather have life follow a steady route for longer but I’m aware that changes are the spice of life at the same time.
The points you made are great - especially the one about giving yourself time to readjust. What I found difficult is knowing how much time I am “allowed” to take with my own and others’ expectations in mind.
Change can be such a scary thing, but as you say it is the spice of life. Your not on your own for wanting to feel settled, I’m the same way as I like routine a lot, but at the same time I love a challenge too.
It sounds like a huge cliche but you really do have to let go of the past in order to accept change. It takes time (you can’t force it) but you really can’t ever move on in life if you’re always thinking about the past. Love this post lady 🙂 I couldn’t agree more.
Glad you liked the post Lauren! Holding onto the past can have such a negative effect, letting go if you can seems like the best option…to me anyways. 🙂
I used to HATE change but now that I’ve gotten older and I’ve seen some of the wonderful things that have come out of changes, I’ve started to get better at rolling with it. I think looking at the positives and hoping for the best is what helps me!
Sounds like you have really got to grips with how to handle change positively Liz. Great to hear that you have found what works for you.