5 Key Signs of Self-Sabotage
Do you have a burning desire to improve your life, but not really getting anywhere fast? The reason that you’re not seeing any results may be down to self-sabotage.
Whatever your goal, like wanting to be healthier, create a self care practice, start a business or move house, it can be increasingly annoying not to see any progress in your journey. It can feel like you’re climbing a mountain and never quite make it to the top.
You could be putting in all the hard work, but then without even realising it self-sabotaging your own chances of success due to your self-limiting beliefs or mindset.
What is self-sabotage?
Put simply, self-sabotage is like a source of inner resistance that stops us from doing what we want to do for a variety of different reasons. Inner conflict occurs and we basically become our own obstacle when it comes to achieving because our mindset is in the wrong place.
One of the easiest ways to confront self-sabotaging behaviours is to recognise the signs when you’re doing it so you can catch these thoughts and put them to bed. I thought that it would be interesting to explore some aspects of self-sabotage that come up for my coaching clients to help you recognise some of the signs when you’re getting in your own way.
Procrastination is getting in your way
Getting all the details and planning things out is fantastic to give you some focus. However, sometimes it can go the other way and overthinking and overplanning takes over. This leads us to become totally distracted and stops us from taking action. Planning is a great tool to help us create our big vision, but it can easily snowball into procrastination and self-sabotage if you let it.
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Take comfort in your current routine
Of course, feeling secure and knowing what you’re doing is very reassuring and comforting, but sticking to the same old routine stumps your personal development. If you’re fearing change, perhaps that’s a signal that it’s time for you to grow.
You’re too tuned in to your inner critic
Your inner critic is that little voice in your head that’s always telling you that you can’t or not good enough. When you give it too much attention you start to believe that it’s true.
I believe that although limiting, we each have an inner critic inside as a protective mechanism in case it all goes wrong. It’s our subconscious telling us to be fearful and tread with caution. However, if we let this voice in our head take control we would never grow or evolve. It’s important to be able to tune out of this self-limiting mindset to move forward.
You want everything to be perfect
Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. Of course, you want everything to be amazing and just so, but it can majorly stop you from starting if you let it as you never reach the high standards that you’ve set. There will never be a perfect moment, perfection is a fantasy and one of the most common forms of self-sabotage.
What other people think bothers you
You could be the juiciest peach in the world, but some people out there just don’t like peaches. I think that’s a quote, but I can’t remember where I’ve seen or heard it otherwise I’d link to the source. Paying attention to others’ perceptions of you will stop you from reaching your goals. It’s only because you care, but honestly, you’ll never please everyone.
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Which one of these resonates with you the most? Do you always get in your own way?
I’m hosting a Master Your Mindset Masterclass next Tuesday online at 8 PM. It would be great to see you there as I dig into how to overcome self-limiting beliefs, self-sabotage and transform your mindset for a more fulfilling life. Check out the details and find out more here.