Giving ourselves permission to show how we're really feeling when we're having a bad day is a positive step in the right direction.

For the most part, life is pretty awesome, however, real life is designed with ups and downs.  You’re running late for a meeting and when you eventually leave the house the car won’t start. Then you finally make it to work only to realise that you’ve left your lunch in the fridge.   On the days when you feel like the universe is throwing a tantrum at you one of the key things to remember is one of life’s biggest lessons, things happen for a reason.  Don’t try to fight it, embrace these emotions, in truth having a bad day is OK.

I like to think of myself as a pretty positive person, a forever optimist, a glass is half full kind of gal. I’m pretty good at bouncing back from the majority of sh**ty situations and setbacks.  Needless to say, trying to be positive all the time can become pressurised and I just want to put it out there that it’s OK to have a bad day. We’re only human after all, prone to mistakes with a multitude of imperfections. Giving ourselves permission to show how we’re really feeling is a positive step in the right direction as opposed to pretending that everything is smelling of roses when in actual fact it’s not even close. 

Why is it OK to have a bad day?  Well, firstly the world isn’t made up of rainbows and candy floss, sometimes we’re given a raw deal and that’s just life!  When these incidents happen, it’s far more advantageous to work through it rather than put on a brave face with a big smile.  Acknowledging that a problem exists is the only real way to move on.  Facing up to the problem is all part of the healing process that is necessary to help us to eventually get back to brighter times. 

Secondly, it’s OK to have a bad day because they happen to all of us!  No one is perfect, even the most positive of people will be dealt a bad hand.  Sometimes we all get caught up in the perfection that is advertised on social media and really we have no idea about the struggle that occurred before all those pretty pictures fill our social feeds.  The number of times that I’ve tried to take a cute picture of my little man!  These days it takes about a million takes before we get the ‘perfect’ picture – when really the one’s that end up on the cutting room floor are the most fun.  Motherhood and healthy living on social media are prime examples of ‘misleading perfectionism,’ but I think I will save my thoughts on that for an entirely separate post. 

Finally, having a bad day helps us appreciate those wonderful good days even more.  This may sound crazy, but celebrate the hardships and struggles because these are what have shaped you and got you to where you are today.  Show a little gratitude (albeit small!), to the bad days because they make the triumphs in your life feel so much more satisfying. 

It’s OK not to smile if you’re in a funk or just having a run of bad luck.  Don’t worry if you’re having a bad day, don’t hide it either.  There may be someone going through exactly the same thing as you and may appreciate knowing that they are not alone.  

In these times, I always try to remember that tomorrow is another day…

Do you always feel that you have to pretend to be happy when you’re having a crap day? How do you deal with bad days?